Comments on: Holiday recap and reflections http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/ Stuff I do with my hands Tue, 14 Oct 2008 05:43:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0 by: Lunchman http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-49747 Thu, 01 May 2008 03:02:15 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-49747 Amazing.. Some really kick ass needle work! So, some off topic info? Am cruising along reading some basic info about bitorrents and stumble into this page: http://board.barenaked.net/showthread.php?t=142 And a posting by some LuvMoose that is also really kicking. One of the best descriptions I've read.. Seems the next poster after me felt so as well. Kudo's.. Then I read.. "I have a liberal arts AB degree and a Ph.D. in Computer Science." And was like.. Wowzers! Now am not sure if I should Bow or Salute =) And somehow I ended up here.. Looking at some needle work (which is awesome btw) and reading your story.. Sorry about your loss, but by the looks of things you have a lot of wonderful things around you. Don't lose sight of them. =) Amazing.. Some really kick ass needle work!

So, some off topic info?
Am cruising along reading some basic info about bitorrents and stumble into this page:
http://board.barenaked.net/showthread.php?t=142

And a posting by some LuvMoose that is also really kicking. One of the best descriptions I’ve read.. Seems the next poster after me felt so as well. Kudo’s..

Then I read..
“I have a liberal arts AB degree and a Ph.D. in Computer Science.”
And was like.. Wowzers! Now am not sure if I should Bow or Salute =)

And somehow I ended up here.. Looking at some needle work (which is awesome btw) and reading your story..

Sorry about your loss, but by the looks of things you have a lot of wonderful things around you. Don’t lose sight of them. =)

]]> by: Andrea http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-39819 Fri, 22 Feb 2008 16:52:53 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-39819 Hi from another member of the tribe... the tribe being the folks walking around with a bunch of pain. It IS really hard, as others have said. Most people are inclined not to talk about it, have trouble, or in my case, want to talk about but are trying to hold it in, so we don't always see how many people are walking around with this stuff inside. But there are a lot of us, and the benefit I've been able to figure from having this psychache in my life is an empathy and bond with others. Most times I'd rather be a happy moron, but lately I've had the chance to help a few others going through nasty relationship situations and I hear from them that my ability to be there for them (thanks to my own pain) has been helping them get through... so I'm trying to find meaning in it. Yeah, take the time you need. He is saying it's over, and you have to believe him on that one, unfortunately. Keep knitting! Hi from another member of the tribe… the tribe being the folks walking around with a bunch of pain. It IS really hard, as others have said. Most people are inclined not to talk about it, have trouble, or in my case, want to talk about but are trying to hold it in, so we don’t always see how many people are walking around with this stuff inside. But there are a lot of us, and the benefit I’ve been able to figure from having this psychache in my life is an empathy and bond with others. Most times I’d rather be a happy moron, but lately I’ve had the chance to help a few others going through nasty relationship situations and I hear from them that my ability to be there for them (thanks to my own pain) has been helping them get through… so I’m trying to find meaning in it. Yeah, take the time you need. He is saying it’s over, and you have to believe him on that one, unfortunately. Keep knitting!

]]> by: Janelle http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-39789 Fri, 22 Feb 2008 04:50:20 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-39789 Thank you so much for posting this. I am in the middle of an extremely similar situation, and it's so hard. Reading your story is heartbreaking, but thank you for letting me know that I'm not alone in feeling the grief and loss of dreams and frustration at him being too stubborn to want to fix it. Thank you so much for posting this. I am in the middle of an extremely similar situation, and it’s so hard. Reading your story is heartbreaking, but thank you for letting me know that I’m not alone in feeling the grief and loss of dreams and frustration at him being too stubborn to want to fix it.

]]> by: jcricket http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-35921 Sat, 02 Feb 2008 23:31:42 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-35921 It was really brave and open of you to post that. When you've been with someone (as you put it) your whole adult life it's only natural that it would take time to mourn the loss of that shared identity and perhaps start finding your own new identity. In that, I don't envy you. But you sound like someone who's clearly identified the issues and what's "holding you back" which is more than a lot of people. So I'm sure you'll come out of it on the other side a fabulous "new" Amy! (bang) It was really brave and open of you to post that. When you’ve been with someone (as you put it) your whole adult life it’s only natural that it would take time to mourn the loss of that shared identity and perhaps start finding your own new identity.

In that, I don’t envy you. But you sound like someone who’s clearly identified the issues and what’s “holding you back” which is more than a lot of people. So I’m sure you’ll come out of it on the other side a fabulous “new” Amy! (bang)

]]> by: Pennifer http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-34916 Sun, 27 Jan 2008 22:53:21 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-34916 Thank you so much for sharing that with us. My divorce went along similar lines, albeit over a much shorter time frame, so much of what you said really resonates with me. It'll get better as time passes and your wounds heal. {{{virtual hug}}} And yes, lovely detailing on the sweaters! Thank you so much for sharing that with us. My divorce went along similar lines, albeit over a much shorter time frame, so much of what you said really resonates with me. It’ll get better as time passes and your wounds heal. {{{virtual hug}}}

And yes, lovely detailing on the sweaters!

]]> by: Tove http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-34017 Wed, 23 Jan 2008 14:58:57 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-34017 I agree with Cetta and Christine, allow yourself to mourn. I was on meds too when I was depressed and I reacted the same way as you did, being disconnected from everything and just numb. Even if I had some lows after I quit them, at least I felt something, and by then I was better equipped to cope with the lows. I hope that things will get easier for you, hang in there in the meanwhile. About interacting with his family, you have to try to decide for yourself what is best for you. But after 13 years, they are your family too in a way, don't you think? I agree with Cetta and Christine, allow yourself to mourn.

I was on meds too when I was depressed and I reacted the same way as you did, being disconnected from everything and just numb. Even if I had some lows after I quit them, at least I felt something, and by then I was better equipped to cope with the lows. I hope that things will get easier for you, hang in there in the meanwhile.

About interacting with his family, you have to try to decide for yourself what is best for you. But after 13 years, they are your family too in a way, don’t you think?

]]> by: Christine http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-32726 Sat, 19 Jan 2008 05:08:49 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-32726 Oh honey, hang in there. The holidays are always the worst part after ending a relationship. I'm with Cetta, you need to let yourself mourn the death of what you thought was going to be the big relationship in your life. That will let you get on with things, learn to be happy on your own. You never know, when you get back to who you are and who you want to be and aren't looking, you may just find the true love of your life waiting around the bend. The sweaters are beautiful. You hang in there, ok? Oh honey, hang in there. The holidays are always the worst part after ending a relationship. I’m with Cetta, you need to let yourself mourn the death of what you thought was going to be the big relationship in your life. That will let you get on with things, learn to be happy on your own. You never know, when you get back to who you are and who you want to be and aren’t looking, you may just find the true love of your life waiting around the bend.

The sweaters are beautiful. You hang in there, ok?

]]> by: Bron http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-31769 Mon, 14 Jan 2008 12:31:35 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-31769 The sweaters are really great. I'm so sorry about what you're going through. :( The sweaters are really great.

I’m so sorry about what you’re going through. :(

]]> by: Cetta http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-31716 Sun, 13 Jan 2008 17:43:39 +0000 http://www.almostrandom.com/needlesnhooks/2008/01/13/holiday-recap-and-reflections/#comment-31716 I have no words of wisdom for you. Just know that you'll get through it. Believe it or not, it's good that you can mourn the loss now, because doing so will help you move on. The baby sweaters, btw, are beautiful! I have no words of wisdom for you. Just know that you’ll get through it. Believe it or not, it’s good that you can mourn the loss now, because doing so will help you move on.

The baby sweaters, btw, are beautiful!

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